It's my 39th birthday, to be exact. And no, that's not an "I'm actually 40 and am just saying I'm 39" kind of thing. I actually am 39.
At midnight last night,
pianodan and I started watching a Simpsons episode that just happened to be next on the DVD, in which Homer hears that the average life span for a male is 76.2 years old. He freaks out, because he realizes he's 38.1 and has wasted half of his life. Marge oh-so-helpfully tells him, "You're not 38, you're 39!" at which point he curls up into the fetal position and starts rocking back and forth.
Maybe that wasn't the best thing to watch at that precise moment.
Anyway, I've always had mixed feelings about my birthday. Because I'm adopted, my birthday isn't really that big of a deal for my mother. The bigger day for her is the day she brought me home from the adoption agency -- July 24th. I always had parties, etc. for my birthday, but emotionally the more important day for my mom is Coming Home Day. I always got presents on both days, which is cool when you're a kid; as I've gotten older I've realized the emotional significance the second day has for her.
The other thing is that as I've gotten older, and more separated from my family, birthdays always remind me how different I am from them and how little they actually know and understand me. I'm not sure I can explain it without sounding ungrateful or snobby, which I'm not, so I'll just leave it at that.
So, yeah. I'm 39. And yeah, I guess I am freaking out a little bit about the number. It's a pretty big number, and the next number has a 4 at the beginning of it. I don't feel 39. I don't think I
act 39, and I really hope I don't
look 39. You're only as old as you feel, blah blah blah. 40 is the new 30, blah blah blah.
Anyway, happy birthday to me, my college friend Karen, Richard Strauss, Joey Santiago (the guitarist for the Pixies) and Hugh Laurie.